Not Just Me: Finding Myself Beyond Anxiety and Depression

“There is a specific kind of quiet that feels less like peace and more like being erased. ” This space at  Not Just Me  is dedicated to exploring how we move beyond the isolation of these conditions. This post explores how we can bridge that gap through  integration  and  Mind Body Wellness . Not Just Me : Finding Myself Beyond Anxiety and Depression https://notjustmeproject.blogspot.com/ The Invisibility of the Shutdown We often talk about anxiety as a "loud" experience—racing hearts, intrusive thoughts, frantic energy, and a desperate need to fix everything at once. But there is another side to the survival spectrum that is rarely discussed because, by its very nature, it is silent. It is the feeling that you have become transparent. You sit in a crowded cafe, and it feels like the noise is passing right through you. You walk through a grocery store, and the eyes of others seem to slide off you as if you aren't there. You post a piece of your ...

“Anxiety is the most loyal bodyguard you never asked for—and like any overprotective guard, it eventually stops letting you leave the house. ” This space at  Not Just Me  is dedicated to exploring how we move beyond the isolation of these conditions. This post explores how we can bridge that gap through  integration  and  Mind Body Wellness . Not Just Me : Finding Myself Beyond Anxiety and Depression https://notjustmeproject.blogspot.com/ The Misunderstood Bodyguard We often talk about anxiety as a purely negative force—an enemy to be defeated, a "glitch" in our mental hardware, or a sign of weakness. We use violent metaphors: we want to "fight" it, "conquer" it, or "crush" it. But at The Soojz Project , we look at it through a different lens. What if your anxiety isn't a mistake? What if it’s actually a sophisticated, deeply loyal survival mechanism that is simply doing its job too well? Biologically, anxiety is your body's ...

“We’re told to ‘stay in the present,’ but what do you do when the present feels like it’s crushing you?” This space at  Not Just Me  is dedicated to exploring how we move beyond the isolation of these conditions. This post explores how we can bridge that gap through  integration  and  Mind Body Wellness . Not Just Me : Finding Myself Beyond Anxiety and Depression https://notjustmeproject.blogspot.com/ The Glitch in the Clock: Understanding Time Dilation In the modern wellness landscape, the "present moment" is sold as a sanctuary. We are bombarded with messages telling us that if we could just stop dwelling on the past or worrying about the future, we would find an immediate, crystalline peace. But for those of us navigating the halls of high-functioning anxiety, the present often feels less like a sanctuary and more like a high-velocity flood. Have you ever noticed that during a moment of intense stress or a panic spike, time seems to warp? Suddenly, the c...

 “Trying to think positive during a panic attack is like trying to paint a house while it’s currently on fire.” The Affirmation Trap We have all been given the same well-meaning advice when we are spiraling: "Just try to think of something happy," or "Focus on the positive." In the wellness industry, we are flooded with "Good Vibes Only" mantras and morning affirmations designed to "reprogram" our minds. But if you have ever tried to recite a mantra while your heart was hammering against your ribs and your breath was caught in your throat, you know the truth: It feels like a lie. In fact, forcing positive thoughts over a panicked body often makes anxiety worse . It creates a secondary layer of shame—now you’re not just anxious; you’re also "failing" at being positive. At Not Just Me , we’re looking at the biological reason why your brain refuses to listen to your "good vibes" when you’re in the thick of it. Anxiety isn’t a ...

 “Failure tells you that you didn't succeed yet . Comparison tells you that you aren't enough .” The Rigged Race: Why Failure Isn't the Real Enemy We are conditioned from a young age to fear failure. We see it as a dead end, a sign of inadequacy, or a mark of shame. But in the world of mental health and nervous system regulation, failure is actually quite manageable. Failure is a discrete event; it provides data, offers a chance to pivot, and eventually, the sting fades. The real driver of chronic, high-level anxiety—the kind that keeps you awake at 3:00 AM—is Comparison . Comparison is a rigged game because you are inevitably measuring your "behind-the-scenes" footage against everyone else’s "highlight reel." When you fail, you lose a round. When you compare, you lose your sense of self. This space, Not Just Me , is where we look at the hidden reasons why looking at someone else’s lane makes your own feel so much harder to run in. Failure teaches. Compa...